Cultivating Gratitude
I once traveled with a friend who had great insight into human nature. He said, “Wherever you go you can find something to complain about.”
If we travel, we can complain about lumpy beds and crowded airports.
But if we stay home, we can complain that we never go anywhere
interesting and there’s never anything good on television. In Japanese
language there is a term -- on. The meaning of on
often includes a sense of gratitude combined with a desire to repay
others for what we have been given. It’s not just that we feel
grateful, or that we express our gratitude, but that we actually
experience a sincere desire to give something back. We might think of
it as appreciation that stimulates a sense of obligation. Not an
externally imposed obligation. But a sense of obligation that arises
naturally within us as we recognize how we have been supported and
cared for by others.
So how do we go from a complaining life to one which cultivates, and is grounded in, a spirit of on
– a spirit of Thanksgiving? A method of Japanese psychology called
Naikan gives us insight into the principles help create an authentic
life of gratitude and offer us clear and straightforward methods for
helping to wake us up to the care, support and gifts that make our own
lives possible.
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